In our society, if someone has problems with anxiety or depression... we usually blame the INDIVIDUAL themselves. We assume that the problem must lie in the INDIVIDUAL's mind, personality, thoughts, beliefs, or biology. I, on the other hand, see anxiety and depression as being a SOCIETAL problem. When I say this... people accuse me of shifting the "blame" from the individual to society. In our society, we believe that there always has to be SOMEONE to blame. So, if I am

When I was 35 years old... I had an inspiring idea... I was going to help young mothers with Postpartum Depression and Anxiety in a completely novel way. I was going to help mothers understand how our SOCIETY was making mothers miserable... and EMPOWER them to feel really great about themselves. . So, I set out to read as much as I could about Anxiety, Depression, and Anger in all areas of the Social Sciences... I became a Certified Professional Coach... and started coach

One of my LEAST FAVORITE expressions in the English language is the expression "self-care". 🤣 It is a very naggy term that makes us feel like that in addition to all the things we "should" be doing... we should also be "caring" for ourselves. Well, I would like to flip this whole expression right on its head... Not everything in life is a "should"... What we are really talking about here is "getting our HAPPINESS NEEDS met", "having fun", and "living the life we want to l

One of my clients just freed herself from a pervasive shame that was affecting every single aspect of her life... causing anxiety, preventing her from connecting with people, preventing her from being happy... And this week if lifted. She told me that she has been having feelings of happiness unlike any feeling she has had in a long time. <3 It is a feeling of gratitude... of relief... of joy... of being truly present in the moment... . Anxiety and Depression are often caus

Anger is one of those emotions that can cause us a lot of guilt, remorse, and being labelled with a so-called "anger problem". :( So what is anger really... and what is the solution? Well... Anger is the emotion we feel when we wish that REALITY was DIFFERENT than it is... 🔸 We wish that WE were different than we are... or 🔸 We wish that our LIVES were different than they are... or 🔸 We wish that OTHER PEOPLE were different than they are... . So, our anger is trying to tel

WHAT IS THE PATH OUT OF DEPRESSION? <3 We often fall into depression when we don't see any SOLUTION to our problems. This can make us feel hopeless... powerless... and trapped... :( It can make us feel like giving up... because there doesn't appear to be any doable solution in sight. <3 . On the weekend, I talked to a friend of mine on the phone who had been feeling severely depressed and suicidal... When I asked him why he was feeling this way, he said it was because hi

On Saturday, I finished the course I have been taking on Grief & Loss. The current grief & loss research is right in line with what I believe. Grief & loss are viewed as NORMAL human emotions, and are not pathologized the way that anxiety & depression tend to be. . But in my opinion, ALL emotional problems can be processed in a similar way... by... 1. TALKING about what we really feel with someone we trust... 2. Identifying the PRIMARY NEGATIVE EMOTIONS like shame, guilt, s

THE UNRESOLVABLE ISSUE... I have this issue... that I have never been able to solve... It just stays and stays... making my life a living hell... . Is there a solution? Is there some way I could change my own mind... Change my perspective... Change the way I live my life? . What if I start talking about it? Start giving it a name? What if I write out exactly what I feel and why? Then will I find a solution? What IS the solution? I won't know until I give this pr

I have had people ask me why I don't write more about depression... Well, I view depression as the state of despair we experience when we believe there are NO SOLUTIONS to our problems. For my clients, their problem is usually their anxiety. Anxiety is the first indicator that... "ALARM, ALARM, There is a problem. You can't handle your environment or the perspective that you have in this environment. You must make some sort of a change." So, once I convince my clients tha

ACHIEVING THE WISDOM OF "THE SERENITY PRAYER" <3 A friend of mine has found a good counselor, and I was asking all kinds of questions about her counselor's approach. It was so interesting to observe the similarities and differences between her counselor and me... But even though our approaches were different... the end goal was the same. . My friend and I came to a cool conclusion: The goal of all good therapists, coaches, counselors, and spiritual healers is to accompan