THROWING OUT "SELF-CARE"... AND GETTING OUR "HAPPINESS NEEDS" MET

One of my LEAST FAVORITE expressions in the English language is the expression "self-care". 🤣

It is a very naggy term that makes us feel like that in addition to all the things we "should" be doing... we should also be "caring" for ourselves.

Well, I would like to flip this whole expression right on its head...

Not everything in life is a "should"...

What we are really talking about here is "getting our HAPPINESS NEEDS met", "having fun", and "living the life we want to live"! <3

Does this really need to be a nag?!! .

Instead, we can ask ourselves happiness-related questions like...

1. PHYSICAL NEEDS - How can I move my body and have FUN in the process?

2. SOCIAL NEEDS - How would I like to socialize in a way that I truly ENJOY?

3. PLEASURE NEEDS - How can I have more PLEASURE in my life?

4. FLOW NEEDS - Can I do something challenging that allows me to "GO INTO THE ZONE" and feel the BLISS of having no emotions at all?

5. MEANING/PURPOSE NEEDS - What would I LOVE to do that is bigger than myself?

6. PEACE/TRANQUILITY NEEDS - How would I love to do "nothing" at all... while feeling on top of the world? .

We don't need to be nagged to "care" for ourselves...

We just need to figure out what our Happiness Needs are... and how we would LOVE to get them met. :). .

I hope you found this helpful.

Let me know if you'd like to know more about how I can help you overcome your Anxiety or Depression and have more Happiness and Connection in your life. <3

Marni Penner Anxiety & Social Anxiety Coach