WHEN I LEARNED TO SIMPLIFY MY HEAD... AND STEP INTO MY HEART

When I had social anxiety... everyone tried to "help" me by cluttering my head with shit... I was given - SCRIPTS of what I should say... - QUESTIONS that I should ask... - TECHNIQUES to debate with my thoughts... However, I ONLY HAD ONE BRAIN. I wasn't able to both have a conversation with someone AND deal with all this cognitive clutter my head! . So, what was the answer then... if it didn't lie in cognitive clutter? My solution was to SIMPLIFY my HEAD... and step into my HEART. Here are the 4 steps that I used to do this: . STEP 1. REMOVE the clutter from your head. - Throw out the script, - the lists, - the complicated techniques... . STEP 2. SIMPLIFY and EMPTY your head. - Be HONEST with people. - SAY what you think and feel. - Dare to BE who you really are. . STEP 3. Step into your HEART... and feel POSITIVE emotions towards YOURSELF and your LIFE. For example, - Love your personality - Love your strengths - Love your interests - Love your life. . STEP 4. Remain in your HEART... and feel POSITIVE emotions towards OTHER PEOPLE. For example... - Feel Love towards others - Feel Compassion towards others - Feel Empathy towards others - Feel Curiosity towards others... . We only have ONE BRAIN... and this brain is having a conversation with someone... So, I have found that the easiest way to deal with cognitive clutter is to SIMPLIFY our heads... step into our HEARTS... and be PRESENT with the person in front of us! <3 I hope you found this helpful. :) What did you think of these ideas? Let me know if you'd like to find out more about this simple yet powerful approach to overcoming Social Anxiety... that I call "Honesty, Love & Acceptance". To your Awesome Self, Marni Penner Anxiety & Social Anxiety Coach