HOW TO FIND OURSELVES AGAIN

Something that often happens when we become a mother is that we can feel that we have lost ourselves...

It is like our whole being gets funneled into the ONE IDENTITY of "mother", and we lose all the others. One of my friends described this process as a "dismantling of self". :(

One of the exercises that I developed to find myself again was what I called "OUR MULTI-FACETED IDENTITY".

What you do is write down ALL the identities that you can think of for yourself. Keep going until you have exhausted all of them.

Here is what I wrote when I first developed the technique. :)

I am me, a unique individual.

I am a mother.

I am a wife.

I am a daughter.

I am a sister.

I am a woman.

I am a friend.

I am an adult.

I am a person.

I am Canadian.

I am North American.

I am a Linguistics graduate.

I am a University graduate.

I am a multilingual person.

I am a psychology-lover.

I am a sociology-lover.

I am a non-fiction reader.

I am a people-lover.

I am an avid learner.

I am a travel-lover.

Then you say them out loud, declare them, embrace them, and feel all of these identities running through your veins!

It is an amazing feeling, I tell you!

You are ALL that...

You didn't lose yourself!

You were here the whole time!

What are YOUR many identities? <3

I would love it if you could write them in the comments! :)

To Your Happy Mother Life,

Marni Penner