I THOUGHT I WAS BUTT UGLY... BUT I WASN'T...

I would like to announce that I "wasted" the first 40 years of my life... believing that I was butt ugly... when I wasn't.

You see... there were certain parts of my body that I believed were SO UGLY that no man could ever love me...

I magnified these flaws to the 100th extreme... ignoring all the areas that I found to be acceptable in myself.

Those areas didn't matter... I believed that my worth in men's eyes was determined by my WORST traits...

I thought the problem lied in ME.

I thought "I" was flawed...

I thought that I was TOO UGLY to be liked by men...

So, there was NOTHING I could do about this problem... I was too ugly for love, and that was that. :( .

I didn't realize that I was a victim of a SOCIETAL problem...

I didn't realize that my ONLY problem was SHAME!

- It was SHAME that was preventing me from looking men in the eyes...

- It was SHAME that was preventing me from talking with men...

- It was SHAME that was making me blush and have my mind go blank...

So, of course men stayed away... Of course men treated me oddly... Because "I" was the one who was drowning in shame.

How attractive could I possibly be in this shame-filled state? .

I somehow found a husband when I was 31 by memorizing every line of "Why Men Love Bitches". lol

But this didn't eliminate my shame... In my mind, all other men still hated me. :( .

Then finally... when I was 40 years old, I figured out how to free myself from this shame and feel MORE BEAUTIFUL than I had ever felt in my whole life! <3

I was already a Shame Expert due to being an Anxiety and Depression Coach for Mothers at the time... (Mothers feel tons of shame.)

So, I said to myself...

"Marni, if 90% of women have body image shame, then why on earth are you still doing holding on to this shame?"

"What kind of hypocrite are you... helping your clients free themselves from shame... but still holding onto one of the most toxic shames on the planet?!!"

"Marni, do you want to spend the rest of your life wishing that you were someone you're not?!!"

I replied, "HELL NO!" .

So, I decided to apply my own "Compassion Technique" to myself to resolve my own body image shame.

I went to the city center a lot that week, and I looked at every woman I saw with true compassion...

I asked myself, "Is she beautiful? Could a man love her?" And my answer was "yes"... over 99% of the time.

The only woman to whom I answered "no" was a very depressed-looking, grumpy-looking, self-victimizing woman who herself was drowning in shame. 🤣 .

After a few days, I felt this shame lift and fade away... the same as it had done with all my mother shames and my clients' shames...

And suddenly I STARTED CONNECTING WITH MEN!

(My husband got kind of scared. lol)

I started looking men in the eyes, talking with them freely about all kinds of topics... and connecting with them on all levels... (well... almost all levels) 😉

I was FREE from the shame that had trapped me for 40 years... FREE!!

I did NOT need cosmetic surgery...

I did NOT need to lose weight...

I did NOT need to start wearing make-up or wearing fashionable clothes...

ALL I had needed to do was FREE MYSELF from that toxic societal shame. .

Do you feel a lot of shame over a certain trait of yours... like your face, your body, your personality, your weight, your height, your voice, etc.?

Do you find that this shame is disconnecting you from others... causing social anxiety, depression, or self-hatred?

It IS possible to free yourself from this shame... and find all the connection, love, and belonging you could ever want.

Because it is PSYCHOLOGICAL ATTRACTIVENESS that enables us to connect with others.

(This is the HAPPY, FREE, LOVING state that we have when we don't feel any shame.)

You don't have to suffer any longer.

You CAN free yourself from shame... and you CAN feel emotionally free! <3 .

Let me know if you'd like to find out more about how I can help you free yourself from your Shame and Anxiety.

To your Emotional Freedom...

Marni Penner Anxiety & Social Anxiety Coach