THE POWER OF TALKING ABOUT OUR PROBLEMS...
Every once in a while, I encounter a disconnect between how I live my life and what appears to be the societal norm...
One of these areas is "talking about our problems... I do it all the time! :)
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I meet with a friend and I tell her what's on my mind... my joys, my struggles, the problems I cannot solve...
She helps me feel less alone...
She gives me perspective...
New solutions come into view...
She tells me about her problems, and we do the same for her too! <3
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So, I am always perplexed when I hear over and over that "one should not talk about their problems"...
🔸 It would bring down the MOOD of the conversation.
🔸 It would BURDEN the other person.
🔸 They would be viewed as a Negative Nancy who does nothing but "COMPLAIN".
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And then I have the thought... But talking about our problems is not complaining!
COMPLAINING is done with the goal of...
🔸 Gaining sympathy...
🔸 Bad-mouthing others...
🔸 NOT solving the problem...
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TALKING ABOUT OUR PROBLEMS is...
Honestly talking about whatever is on our mind right now... with no agenda... no hidden goal... except perhaps to hopefully solve the problem some day.
What else would we want to talk about... other than what is on our mind right now?! :)
Happy... Sad... They are one and all the same!
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THIS is the foundation of CONNECTION...
It is what it means to be alive. <3
To all of my friends...
To whom I have shared so many problems and so many joys.
YOU helped me become who I am today.
I love you guys!
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To Talking about our Problems...
To Connection in its Truest Form... <3
Marni Penner
A Kanadai Coach :)