THE INTELLIGENT, PERFECTIONIST MOTHER
She was a perfectionist...
She was intelligent,
She always got straight A's...
She found a good job...
Worked hard...
Got a promotion...
Earned a good wage...
Found a great man...
Had a beautiful wedding...
Found the perfect time to conceive...
And then she had a baby...
And FAILED like you wouldn't believe...
She felt SO MUCH GUILT...
and SO MUCH FEAR...
and SO MUCH SHAME...
She was a roller-coaster of emotions...
A bomb ready to explode...
She had always wanted to be a mother...
And now she was doubting her whole existence...
her intelligence,
her whole self-worth...
She had been an intelligent, successful woman...
And now she was...
A failure...
at motherhood...
at womanhood...
at life itself...
Until one day she realized that SOCIETY
had put a bunch of impossible beliefs
into her head...
She was so good at reading,
and learning,
and doing her best...
She had learned...
every...
single...
last...
societal...
belief...
directed...
at...
mothers...
The beliefs were contradicting...
No matter what she did... she lost...
"If I stimulate him A LOT, then .........."
"If I DON'T stimulate him ENOUGH, then........."
"If I stimulate him TOO MUCH, then........."
These beliefs were haunting her
harassing her...
They wouldn't leave her alone!
She was an intelligent successful woman...
Being torn right down to the ground...
.
She turned to her husband and asked
"Well, what do you believe?"
He said...
"Whatever we do... our children will be a lot like YOU and ME."
Nurture vs. Nature...
Two parenting cultures... side by side...
Ripping up their marriage from the inside...
.
She realized that in order to
free herself from this societal
guilt, fear, and shame...
She could look to SOCIOLOGY...
What IS SOCIETY telling mothers...
and WHY?
She started freeing herself from
each harmful societal belief...
One belief at a time! <3
And as she freed herself from all this
guilt, fear, and shame...
She felt closer to her husband...
They were more and more the same...
And they lived happily for ever after...
Like they always thought they would...
The intelligent, perfectionist mother...
was... FREE... at... last! <3
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Let me know if you'd like me to help you free yourself from Postpartum, Maternal, Parenting Anxiety... or any Anxiety... and all the painful emotions underlying it.
It's not your fault that this happened to you... <3
It happened to me too!
But we highly sensitive people CAN be emotionally free!
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To your Happy Life...
Marni Penner
A Kanadai Coach