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Frissítve: 2020. máj. 31.
HOW I DISCOVERED THAT ANXIETY IS PREDOMINANTLY A "SHAME PROBLEM" <3
To my surprise... when I became a mother, I felt these 3 emotions in every second of every day...
🔸MOTHER SHAME - "I am not a good enough mother."
🔸 MOTHER GUILT - "I am not being a good enough mother in this moment... and I wasn't a good enough mother in the past."
🔸 MOTHER FEAR - "Something bad will happen to my baby, and it will be all my fault... because I am not a good enough mother."
Despite how much emotional pain I was going through... when I looked around, there only appeared to be two groups of mothers:
1. Mothers who were HAPPY, CONFIDENT and BLISSFUL in motherhood.
2. Mothers who had been diagnosed with the MEDICAL DISORDER of Postpartum Depression or Anxiety.
Something extremely fishy was going on... and I was going to figure out what it was...
So, I did tons of research, freed myself from these painful emotions, and became a Depression and Anxiety Coach for Mothers.
As I was helping mothers free themselves from the Shames, Guilts, and Fears at the root of their anxiety... I realized that I was a hypocrite because I still harbouring OTHER types of shame... such as...
1. Body Image Shame - Causing SOCIAL ANXIETY with Men.
2. "Must-be-Perfect Shame - Causing PERFORMANCE ANXIETY on the internet.
3. "Not-Good-at-Practical-Tasks" Shame - Causing GENERALIZED ANXIETY and Paralysis in my everyday life.
Moreover, I realized that my solution to my SEVERE SOCIAL ANXIETY in my 20's had also been freeing myself from Shame. <3
So, I set out to continue freeing myself from all my residual Shames... and became an Anxiety Coach for Everyone.
Anxiety is almost always Shame problem... together with some other painful Primary Emotions, like Guilt, Powerlessness, Loneliness & Grief...
However, it IS possible to free ourselves from these painful emotions... and the Anxiety it has been causing. <3
Do you believe that your anxiety is essentially a shame problem? Is it intrinsically tied in with feeling "not good enough"?
Let me know if you'd like to know more about how I can help you overcome your anxiety together with the Shame and other painful emotions underlying it. (More info down in the comments)
To your Happiness...
A Kanadai Coach :)