Frissítve: 2020. máj 31.
WHEN I LEARNED TO SIMPLIFY MY HEAD... AND STEP INTO MY HEART <3
When I had crippling social anxiety... everyone tried to "help" me by cluttering my head with shit...
I was given
- SCRIPTS of what I should say...
- QUESTIONS that I should ask...
- TECHNIQUES to debate with my thoughts...
However, I ONLY HAD ONE BRAIN.
I wasn't able to both have a conversation with someone AND deal with all this cognitive clutter in my head!
So, what was the answer then... if it didn't lie in cognitive clutter?
My solution was to SIMPLIFY MY HEAD... and step into my HEART.
Here are the 4 steps that I used to do this:
STEP 1. REMOVE the clutter from your head.
- Throw out the script,
- the lists,
- the complicated techniques...
STEP 2. SIMPLIFY and EMPTY your head.
- Be HONEST with people.
- SAY what you think and feel.
- Dare to BE who you really are.
STEP 3. Step into your HEART... and feel POSITIVE emotions towards YOURSELF and your LIFE.
- Love your personality
- Love your strengths
- Love your interests
- Love your life.
STEP 4. Remain in your HEART... and feel POSITIVE emotions towards OTHER PEOPLE.
- Feel Love towards others
- Feel Compassion towards others
- Feel Empathy towards others
- Feel Curiosity towards others...
We only have ONE BRAIN... and this brain is having a conversation with someone...
So, I have found that the easiest way to deal with cognitive clutter is to SIMPLIFY our heads...
step into our HEARTS...
and be PRESENT with the person in front of us! <3
I hope you found this helpful. :)
What did you think of these ideas?
Let me know if you'd like to find out more about this simple yet powerful approach to overcoming Social Anxiety... that I call "Honesty, Love & Acceptance".
To your Awesome Self,
A Kanadai Coach