CIKK: Miért volt a szorongásom áldás?

WHY MY ANXIETY WAS A HUGE BLESSING IN DISGUISE <3

When I was a young mother suffering from Postpartum and Generalized Anxiety... I felt like hell. :(

I felt like I was FAILING motherhood, womanhood, and life itself...

However... I did finally find a solution...

🔸 I found two nanny friends who truly understood me, and with whom I could talk about all that I was experiencing.

🔸 I researched everything I could in alternative branches of Psychology, Sociology and other Social Sciences to figure out what was causing the painful emotions at the ROOT of my anxiety.

🔸 I figured out how to "find myself again", get my needs met... and become REALLY HAPPY in motherhood.

I became so passionate about this topic that I decided to become an "Anxiety & Depression Coach" so that I could help others do the same. <3

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In the Coaching Academy, I made the most astounding discovery of all:

There were many "Empty Nest" Coaches there who were helping mothers who were 20 years older than my clients.

They were helping their clients do THE SAME THING AS I WAS... but TWO DECADES LATER! 😲

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I realized that my Anxiety had been a HUGE BLESSING in disguise.

It had forced me to...

🔸 Address my Shame Problem once and for all...

🔸 Finally understand my Generalized Anxiety and how to overcome it.

🔸 No longer fall into Anger and Rage.

🔸 Overcome my Residual Social Anxiety and figure out how to TRULY CONNECT with other mothers and women.

🔸 Improve my RELATIONSHIPS with my Husband and Children.

🔸 FIND MYSELF again.

🔸 GET MY NEEDS MET.

🔸 Figure out how to be a REALLY HAPPY person. <3

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Had I NOT had Postpartum Anxiety... I might have waited until the Empty Nest Phase to figure all this stuff out!

Anxiety can be a great BLESSING!

It forces us to face our problems head on... and become the strongest, happiest person we can be.

Let me know if you'd like me to help you overcome your Anxiety to find your Happiness, Connection and Empowerment on the other side.

To your Happiness... in all the various phases of life... <3

Marni Penner

A Kanadai Coach :)

CIKK: Mi volt a fő elv, ami segített legyőzni az anyasági szorongásom?

WHAT WAS THE KEY ELEMENT THAT ENABLED ME OVERCOME MY GENERALIZED ANXIETY IN MOTHERHOOD?

I had really bad generalized anxiety in motherhood...

It was so bad that I became determined to find the solution for myself and everyone else.

I had to find a way to free myself from that horrible ROLLER COASTER of Shame, Failure, Guilt, Fear, Overwhelm, and Loneliness... so that I would have the emotional space to feel POSITIVE EMOTIONS instead. <3

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So, I did tons of research into all areas of the social sciences... and I started identifying every single emotion I was feeling...

🔸 "WHAT am I feeling right now?"

🔸 "WHY am I feeling it?"

🔸 "WHERE is it coming from?"

For example, one of the questions I had was, "WHY was I feeling GUILTY for going to the toilet?!!!!" 😂

I then summarized this research into 15 READING MODULES for my mother clients to help them free themselves from the Primary Emotions at the root of their anxiety in motherhood.

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This Anxiety Program for Mothers was working like a charm.

However, I was having trouble articulating to non-mothers what the key ingredients to overcoming generalized anxiety were...

Until I finally figured it out...

In order to overcome generalized anxiety... we have to FIND THE RESOLVE to PRIORITIZE our emotional well-being above everything else.

It was THIS RESOLVE that enabled me to find my solutions in the first place.

And it is THIS RESOLVE that I was helping to foster in my clients. <3

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And WHY is this resolve so important?

Because if we DON'T prioritize our emotional well-being over everything else, then it is way too easy to find ourselves falling back into...

- the roller-coaster of emotions...

- the shame storms...

- the non-stop guilt...

- the endless worrying...

- the bouts of anger...

- the crippling fears...

WHO CARES ABOUT ALL THE SHIT WE ARE SUPPOSED TO GIVE A SHIT ABOUT?!!

It is this shit that is tearing us apart. <3

In order to overcome generalized anxiety... it is our EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING that has to come first.

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Let me know if you'd like me to help you with your anxiety... and all the primary emotions underlying it.

To your happiness & emotional well-being...

Marni Penner

A Kanadai Coach :)

CIKK: Hogy fedeztem fel, hogy a szorongás sokszor a szégyentől van?

HOW I DISCOVERED THAT ANXIETY IS PREDOMINANTLY A "SHAME PROBLEM" <3

To my surprise... when I became a mother, I felt these 3 emotions in every second of every day...

🔸MOTHER SHAME - "I am not a good enough mother."

🔸 MOTHER GUILT - "I am not being a good enough mother in this moment... and I wasn't a good enough mother in the past."

🔸 MOTHER FEAR - "Something bad will happen to my baby, and it will be all my fault... because I am not a good enough mother."

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Despite how much emotional pain I was going through... when I looked around, there only appeared to be two groups of mothers:

1. Mothers who were HAPPY, CONFIDENT and BLISSFUL in motherhood.

2. Mothers who had been diagnosed with the MEDICAL DISORDER of Postpartum Depression or Anxiety.

Something extremely fishy was going on... and I was going to figure out what it was...

So, I did tons of research, freed myself from these painful emotions, and became a Depression and Anxiety Coach for Mothers.

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As I was helping mothers free themselves from the Shames, Guilts, and Fears at the root of their anxiety... I realized that I was a hypocrite because I still harbouring OTHER types of shame... such as...

1. Body Image Shame - Causing SOCIAL ANXIETY with Men.

2. "Must-be-Perfect Shame - Causing PERFORMANCE ANXIETY on the internet.

3. "Not-Good-at-Practical-Tasks" Shame - Causing GENERALIZED ANXIETY and Paralysis in my everyday life.

Moreover, I realized that my solution to my SEVERE SOCIAL ANXIETY in my 20's had also been freeing myself from Shame. <3

So, I set out to continue freeing myself from all my residual Shames... and became an Anxiety Coach for Everyone.

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Anxiety is almost always Shame problem... together with some other painful Primary Emotions, like Guilt, Powerlessness, Loneliness & Grief...

However, it IS possible to free ourselves from these painful emotions... and the Anxiety it has been causing. <3

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Do you believe that your anxiety is essentially a shame problem? Is it intrinsically tied in with feeling "not good enough"?

Let me know if you'd like to know more about how I can help you overcome your anxiety together with the Shame and other painful emotions underlying it. (More info down in the comments)

To your Happiness...

Marni Penner

A Kanadai Coach :)